Women in Policing: How It Feels to Be a Reluctant Hero

Women in law enforcement face continuing doubts about their ability to be as brave, competent, and dedicated as their male counterparts. How we respond in a life-threatening crisis may be hard to predict. One woman may have exceeded expectations. Being hailed as a...

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How to Make Love Last Past Valentine’s Day and Date Night

Research shows that durable, happy relationships need daily doses of positivity. To strengthen your relationship, find out what feels like affection to your mate, because it may not be the same for you. Your relationship can deepen with small, spontaneous acts of love...

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Married to a Cop? Their Stress Can Become Yours

Traumatic stress is contagious. You can catch it from your mate. This has important implications for first responder families. Mouse studies suggest that males and females destress differently. Female mice destress in the company of an unstressed mouse. Males do not....

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Is Being a Cop (or Anything Else) a Job or an Identity?

My colleague, Coach Bruce Sokolove of Field Training Associates, sent me a link to an article by Arthur C. Brooks titled, "A Profession Is Not a Personality." His subtitle? “Reducing yourself to any single characteristic, whether it be your title or your job...

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Is Fear Your Friend, Foe, or Both?

Some fears keep us safe. Others cause distress. Can you tell the difference? Famous author Stephen King is the author of 81 books, including an excellent craft book titled On Writing. It’s a book I’ve read several times since I switched from writing...

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8 Ways Cops (or Anyone Else) Can Be Good Therapy Clients

A client will get more out of therapy if they are an active participant in their own treatment.Therapy takes time and patience. It doesn't have to take forever, but, depending on one's issues, it is often not a quick fix.One's goals for therapy may change in...

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