When Cops Kill: A Memo to Cops and Their Families
The aftermath is not what you may think or see on TV. After 30-plus years as a police and public safety psychologist, I remain convinced that policing is one of the most stressful and complex occupations in the world. What other job requires you to be combat-ready at...
Defeat Stigma: A New Year’s Resolution for First Responders
How annual mental health check-ups can help first responders cope with the job. I just read this quote from a firefighter: “I wish my head could forget what my eyes have seen.” I don’t know the man, but if I did, here’s what I’d say. “Sorry, friend, it just doesn’t...
The Wisdom of Chief Inspector Armand Gamache
“There are four things that lead to wisdom. You ready for them?" She nodded, wondering when the police work would begin. "They are four sentences we learn to say, and mean." Gamache held up his hand as a fist and raised a finger with each point. "I don't know. I need...
Intimate Partner Abuse: What if Your Abuser Is a Cop?
Domestic abuse in police families is rarely talked about until it makes headlines. How often it happens and how prevalent it is compared to the general population is a mystery. Even experts in the field of officer-involved domestic violence (OIDV) cannot find any...
When It Comes to Dying, Cops May Be Their Own Worst Enemies
The headlines are horrifying. Nine New York City police officers have committed suicide since the start of the year. Chicago PD lost six officers to suicide in an eight-month period. According to Blue H.E.L.P., a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping officers...
Sticks and Stones: Why That Old Children’s Rhyme Is So Wrong
In this era of hate speech, it is words that hurt and words that heal. A few weeks ago I shared something controversial on my Facebook page. Some readers found it offensive. I understood why. What I didn't understand and still don't, is the vehemence of their...