I am Jewish by heritage and a second-generation American. With the rise of anti-Semitism in the U.S. and worldwide, I feel alarmed. My paternal grandparents came to America from Russia to escape conscription by the Czar. The discrimination they and my parents...
Counseling for cops
How Do You Live With Yourself When You’ll Never Be Perfect?
Can we agree on one thing? Perfection, however much we crave it, is impossible to achieve. I’d like my surgeon to be perfect; ditto for the pilot on my plane. What constitutes perfect or even good is open to opinion and the subject of a zillion lawsuits. Especially if...
17 Tips to Help Prevent Police Suicide
Police officers are twice as likely to kill themselves as to be killed in the line of duty. To prevent someone from killing themselves, don't mince words. Two crucial ways to intervene with a suicidal officer are to separate them from their weapons and to buy time. If...
Married to a Cop? Their Stress Can Become Yours
Traumatic stress is contagious. You can catch it from your mate. This has important implications for first responder families. Mouse studies suggest that males and females destress differently. Female mice destress in the company of an unstressed mouse. Males do not....
8 Ways Cops (or Anyone Else) Can Be Good Therapy Clients
A client will get more out of therapy if they are an active participant in their own treatment.Therapy takes time and patience. It doesn't have to take forever, but, depending on one's issues, it is often not a quick fix.One's goals for therapy may change in...
The Chauvin Verdict and the Future of Policing in America
There is a lot wrong with policing because there is a lot wrong with society.For communities of color, the Chauvin verdict is one winning skirmish in a centuries-old war that shows no signs of slowing.There will be no one-size-fits-all solution but several key changes...